It feels like we’re in a weird sort of limbo at the moment.
I am almost 38 weeks pregnant and am now on maternity leave.
We’ve been clearing out all of our crap from the flat to make way for our
little boy.
I’ve washed most of his clothes, bought nappies and all the
other bits we need, packed my hospital bag, the moses basket is set up next to
my side of the bed waiting for this little person to sleep in it, and now we
just wait.
Both of us know that our life together as we know it is
about to be turned upside down in the most amazing way possible, but we have no
idea what it’s going to be like.
So, for the moment we are just Ruth and Johnny, aged 32 and
33 respectively, carrying on with our lives while waiting for this little
person to come along and change it forever.
We are both excited and can’t wait to meet the little chap,
and terrified at the same time. Neither of us knows how to be a parent. There
is no manual, and the fact that we are going to be entirely responsible for
this tiny, helpless little human being that we have made is overwhelming at
times.
I have sat for hours wondering which bits of me and which
bits of Johnny he will have, what he will be like, whether he’s got any hair,
and what he will smell like. I’m looking forward to giving him a cuddle and a
big sniff.
I wonder how it will feel the first time I see him and he’s
put into my arms. I worry that I won’t get that huge rush of love people talk
about despite the fact that he is more wanted by the both of us than he could
ever know.
It’s made me understand how it must have been for my parents
before I was born. It’s made me look at them in a different light – as the
people they were before I came along rather than my mum and dad. And I’ve
realised that they would have felt exactly the same as I do now.
Johnny thinks he is going to arrive at the weekend, which
would be ten days before our due date. I’m not so sure.
We know his name. In fact, we have known his name since
before we knew he was inside me. We tell people that he may be called something
different if he doesn’t look like the name we have decided to give him but I
think it highly unlikely as I cannot imagine calling our little boy anything
else now. So, hopefully, by September 26 we will have introduced Arlo Jonathan
Parfitt to the world.
The other thing I need to sort out is my birth plan. I
really should have written it by now but we have had all sorts of appointments
as he’s still breech and refusing to turn round.
Last week I went for an External Cephalic Version (ECV) to
try and turn him but his bum is still stuck in my pelvis and he seems perfectly
happy that way round.
I have still opted for a natural birth although him being
breech makes it a bit more dangerous and complicated – most women book in for a
caesarean.
In the mean time I have tried all sorts of things to turn
him including moxibustion, spending a lot of time on all fours with my bum in
the air and bouncing around on my birthing ball. I’m hoping he’ll still turn on
his own although he seems to like wedging his head right up under my ribs at
the moment which is incredibly painful.
Yesterday I took me and the bump for a lovely but very cold
swim in the sea near to the West Pier on Brighton
beach. It was great floating around and taking the weight off as even walking
into town tires me out now. It also takes me bloody ages to walk anywhere as
he’s getting really heavy and my hips and pelvis are really starting to feel
it.
I do wonder what it will be like when he’s no longer inside
me and I know I will miss feeling him move and kick. But the thought of his
daddy being able to have a cuddle with him is the best thing in the world and I
can’t wait to see them together.
So, we are just back to waiting now. I have stuff planned
for most days but it’s quite weird seeing friends who, when it comes to saying
bye to them, could be seeing me for the last time without the little one in
tow.
Most sentences include the phrase, “we’ll be there, if he
hasn’t been born by then”. It’s strange yet exhilarating at the same time and I
cannot wait for the next chapter in our lives to begin.
happy waiting. Very exciting time!!! enjoy the anticipation... B
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